I cannot help but notice that everyone I know has multiple or at least one thing they regret—it could be a missed opportunity, action, or something they have done that they thought could have been done better.
Now I know why I came across this page tonight. The regret of my mum's death has been there and I have felt relieved reading this article.
Not like her life was in my hands but when she complained of fast breath after her surgery, I shouldn't have allowed the doctor ignore it. When I saw the accident and her death in a dream a year before it played out, I should have prayed more than I did.
3days before the accident that led to her death, I had another dream of death and I told her and we were in prayers. I wondered if I didn't do enough to save her.
My worst fear was losing my mum and it happened.
Oh Mum!
With how much I have cried reading through this article, God surely brought me here.
Reading through your comment brought a wave of bittersweet emotions to my heart. In part because it has been a while since I wrote and published this article, and then, your story also resonated with me just like mine might have to you and made me remember how I felt for years regarding the death of my father.
In one of my articles, I wrote that I deeply connect to sadness and others' grief of loss and disappointment. Because I believe that when we experience sadness, we share suffering in common; it becomes one of the few times people allow themselves to be genuinely vulnerable.
It is imperative to allow ourselves to grieve and lean on those who care about us for support - including those who we may serendipitously find on the internet. So I want to assure you you're not alone in this journey of healing - "But even so", as one of my favourite authors, Susan Cain, puts it - loss opens up the arms that seem to fold tightly across the chest of the world when our loved ones leave us. "But even so", I add, connects us with everyone who's ever grieved, which is to say, everyone - including people like me who lost their dads many years back.
Thank you for your comment. I am sincerely happy that my honest writing proved helpful to you. It reminds me that even if one person reads and finds my article helpful, the satisfaction I get can be equated to that of having thousands of people reading and writing feedback.
Sending you loads of best wishes and hoping to stay in touch...
This is a really great piece. After all is said and done, embracing self forgiveness isn’t about erasing the past but leveraging past experiences to be more compassionate and resilient.
Now I know why I came across this page tonight. The regret of my mum's death has been there and I have felt relieved reading this article.
Not like her life was in my hands but when she complained of fast breath after her surgery, I shouldn't have allowed the doctor ignore it. When I saw the accident and her death in a dream a year before it played out, I should have prayed more than I did.
3days before the accident that led to her death, I had another dream of death and I told her and we were in prayers. I wondered if I didn't do enough to save her.
My worst fear was losing my mum and it happened.
Oh Mum!
With how much I have cried reading through this article, God surely brought me here.
3yrs of grief and regrets.
I thank God, for it shall get better henceforth.
Thank you so much Ekene for this piece.
Dear Osinachi,
Reading through your comment brought a wave of bittersweet emotions to my heart. In part because it has been a while since I wrote and published this article, and then, your story also resonated with me just like mine might have to you and made me remember how I felt for years regarding the death of my father.
In one of my articles, I wrote that I deeply connect to sadness and others' grief of loss and disappointment. Because I believe that when we experience sadness, we share suffering in common; it becomes one of the few times people allow themselves to be genuinely vulnerable.
It is imperative to allow ourselves to grieve and lean on those who care about us for support - including those who we may serendipitously find on the internet. So I want to assure you you're not alone in this journey of healing - "But even so", as one of my favourite authors, Susan Cain, puts it - loss opens up the arms that seem to fold tightly across the chest of the world when our loved ones leave us. "But even so", I add, connects us with everyone who's ever grieved, which is to say, everyone - including people like me who lost their dads many years back.
Thank you for your comment. I am sincerely happy that my honest writing proved helpful to you. It reminds me that even if one person reads and finds my article helpful, the satisfaction I get can be equated to that of having thousands of people reading and writing feedback.
Sending you loads of best wishes and hoping to stay in touch...
Ekene Moses
Thanks for taking your time to respond with more helpful words.
I'm very grateful
This is a really great piece. After all is said and done, embracing self forgiveness isn’t about erasing the past but leveraging past experiences to be more compassionate and resilient.
It is always a pleasure to read a comment from you. Thank you for your kind feedback!